Networking When You Don’t Feel Like It (But Know You Should)
Let’s be honest: networking isn’t exactly fun for most people.
You’re not into small talk.
You’re not naturally extroverted.
And you’re not even sure it works.
Still…in this job market? Networking isn’t optional.
It’s strategic.
And it’s often the difference between waiting and getting hired.
So what do you do when you know it matters… but you really don’t wanna?

First: Let’s Redefine Networking
You don’t need to charm a room full of strangers.
You don’t need to be a “people person.”
You don’t even need to leave your house.
You just need to start with the people you already know.
And here’s something most people overlook….an active, engaged network doesn’t just help you find opportunities, it shows hiring managers that you’re the kind of person who brings solutions, not just skills. When you have a strong network, you also have:
- Access to ideas, insights, and industry knowledge
- Resources you can tap into or bring with you
- People you can refer, consult, or collaborate with
In other words, your network doesn’t just help you, it makes you a more valuable hire. Someone who can solve challenges with more than just their own two hands.
Here’s the Simplified Process:
- Don’t aim for 100 new connections.
- Don’t fake charisma.
- Don’t overthink it.
Instead, use a simple tool from the DIY Ultimate Networking Toolkit called Map Your Network and take the first real step. With this exercise, you’ll:
- List 25 people already in your world
- Sort them into three useful categories (Inner Circle, Active Connections, Extended Network)
- Spot low-effort, high-value opportunities to reconnect
It’s like taking inventory of your career support system and realizing you already have more assets than you thought.
What Happens Next?
Once you map your network, you’ll be able to:
See who to
reach out to
Know how to approach those conversations
Uncover where the biggest opportunities might be hiding
And the best part? You don’t have to be slick, salesy, or someone you’re not. You just have to show up and follow through.
